What people Want from Relationship?

Every year the nature of reality changes and along with it the way we deal with relationships and what we can expect from them. Some people think they know what they want, then discover they have changed and want something and someone else. Many people are addicted to love and need to feel the, chemical high. Some relationships are about ego, your partner telling you how wonderful and attractive you are. Compassion, gentleness, and love seems to be key factors in making relationships work. The low level emotions, anger, violence, fear, kill all relationships.
But....what most people want is someone who will be there for them 'no matter what', placing them above everything, to be the best friends, exclusive lovers, have frequent and good communication, someone to share their lives with. They want someone who cares, who is dedicated to their relationship, making them feel loved, needed, and removing many of their fears, caretakers for the weary and frightened souls. "I'll do anything for you...." Clients often ask me, "What is my partner thinking about me? Does he or she love me?"
Not everyone is capable of giving or receiving love at a that level, it takes too much away from one's personal growth, most of us avoid needy whiny people. People often say they just want a companion, but in truth they want the whole package, emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. They want someone to share their lives with. They are fooling themselves if they think otherwise. They want a real relationship.

Then we find other people who do not have an emotional need for this type of intimacy and co-dependence. They usually find it clingy, possessive and controlling.
One must have some degree of balance to make things work.
Some relationships are just about sex, as the partners are very compatible.
Some partners want you all for themselves, to the exclusion of others, family and friends. This goes to low self-esteem issues and an unhealthy relationship.

Then there's the situation when a partner does not get along with your friends and family. We now come to friends... mine, yours, ours. There simply isn't enough time to satisfy everyone and have time for yourself.

Why people deny reality?

When people choose to escape from a reality it is usually because that reality is causing them some degree of pain, discomfort or boredom. And since it is a natural human reaction to avoid these things, it is often far easier to ignore or deny them and not live consciously. Whilst these avoidance behaviors certainly may provide some short term relief, ultimately the long term consequences become more and more severe with each passing day.

This is one of the main reasons why living consciously can probe to be so difficult, because our natural tendency to avoid the things which cause us discomfort, continually creates barriers which block the path to a more conscious lifestyle.

Therefore in order to live consciously, a person must be filled with an enormous amount of self discipline, courage and inner strength so that they can smash through these barriers, and fully awaken the potential that lies within them.

It is only when you are able to fully accept the realty of a situation, whether good or bad, and without trying to deny or ignore it by escaping to another reality, will you start living a more conscious and successful life.

Reality is for people with no imagination.

What makes these two sets of people so different? What makes them so different is how they view their reality! Look again at the title: REALITY IS FOR PEOPLE WITH NO IMAGINATION. Wouldn't you like to, say, change your reality? Start expecting something better? Oh, nothing drastic to start out with. Maybe just that the sun will shine today, or the phone will ring and it won't be someone wanting to sell you something, a loved one will unexpectedly show up.

And while you're at it, maybe you would like to spend the time you USED to spend saying all that negative self-talk and begin saying just this one sentence: "Every day in every way I am better, better, and better." When you find yourself pulling out of the negative frame of mind, then you can graduate to "I love myself and all creation." I know that last sentence could be a challenge, but when you've accomplished it, you will feel a shift in your feelings, you'll find yourself smiling more, and you just might find that life is more enjoyable! You know why? Because you can only think one thing at a time.

Who are people?

Do you think people are Heroes?
People do not understand the nature or ramifications of most educational changes. They become involved in change voluntarily and in either case experience ambivalence about its meaning, form, or consequences. I have implied that there are a number of things at stake changes in goals, skills, philosophy or beliefs, behavior, etc. Subjectively these different aspects are experienced in a diffuse, incoherent manner. Change often is not conceived of as being multidimensional. Objectively, it is possible to clarify the meaning of an educational change by identifying and describing its main separate dimensions. Ignorance of these dimensions explains a number of interesting phenomena in the field of educational change: for example, why some people accept an innovation they do not understand; why some aspects of a change are implemented and others not; and why strategies for change neglect certain essential components.